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New Year

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2010 is done and 2011 is under way! After the crazy busy, no sleep Christmas we had, Jon and I were not interested in going out. We decided to ring in the New Year with Chinese food for dinner, Jon’s family tradition, and Tex-Mex dip for a later snack, my family tradition. I was thinking about making Jon some oliebollen but figured we had more than enough food for the three of us, and lets face it… I didn’t feel like cooking.

Jon and I played a few hours of Beatles Rock Band, which we had bought on sale with some of our Christmas money. We put most of our money towards the adoption but because we thought Livi would enjoy rocking out just as much as us, we did decide to splurge a little. For those of you who remember me saying I would never buy a gaming system because I hate them so much, we didn’t buy it. We got my brother’s Xbox 360 when he left for China. Some how that makes it a little easier to accept. I still hate them… but Rock Band is pretty fun. I can justify it with Rock Band being interactive and not something you can completely zone out on. Okay, so I’m a hypocrite.

I’ve been trying to get Jon watch Away We Go with me, but for some reason he has little faith in my movie choices. I’d seen it before, probably over a year ago. I saw it just after I had come through our year of hell. (I don’t know if there is any one post I can link too. If you’ve followed along you know what I’m talking about. If not and you’d like to know, send me an email.) There was so much in that movie that I related to, that I still relate to. Watch the movie… particularly if you are new parents.

We finished the movie about five minutes before the ball dropped so we decided to stay up. I yelled “Happy New Year!” not thinking it would wake Livi on the other side of the house in a room that is virtually sound proof because it used to be the garage. Next thing we knew Livi came around the corner half asleep for a hug! I must have woken her up… or possibly the neighbors out side. What made me nervous was that we didn’t hear her open the door through the monitor. If she starts sleep walking… like I have in the past… what if she goes outside?! Well, she can’t quite open the front door yet because it sticks. I hope it stays that way. It was the perfect way to start the New Year though! After a kiss from Jon, I got a big, sleepy, warm cuddle and kiss from my baby! My mom was still awake up stairs too so we took Livi up to give her a New Years kiss too 🙂

What is 2011 going to bring? Well, according to my New Year’s dinner Chinese fortune “Your fondest dream will come true within this year.” This made me smile. Not that I believe these generic, vague cookie prophesies but this one is going to come true! Aside from getting married and having kids, all with Brad Pitt, adopting a child with Down Syndrome is my longest, fondest dream! I have the married and child dream fulfilled. I don’t think it would be very productive to hold out hope for Brad Pitt in 2011, but I am going to get my baby! How amazing! I’m so excited. It is a weird feeling to know that in just a few months I’ll have basically everything I ever wanted! I am seriously blessed.

To top off my excitement for this year, I’ll also be getting to end it in Mexico! Jon’s grandparents have decided to take the entire clan to Mexico for a family gathering! I’ve done a lot of camping in my life and even stayed in the occasional hotel here and there but I have never had the all-inclusive vacation that most people at least get on their honeymoon. Jon and I thought we’d be saving money by going to Whistler… it was basically just as expensive. I’m so excited to go on a vacation that is nothing but lounging on the beach and drinking margaritas all day! No stress, no responsibility (except our children of course) and pure relaxation!

I don’t have any real resolutions like I did last year… my life style change was a bitter failure. I did lose nearly 20lbs at the beginning of last year but I’m sure that I have gained it all back in recent months. Getting to a healthier weight is always a goal of mine but it has proven a more difficult achievement than I thought. I don’t know what I need to maintain a healthier lifestyle but I hope I get there one day. If there is anyone in Chilliwack looking for a project in me or exercise partner I’d be willing to try something new! I just don’t think I have the energy to commit to any exercise program by myself right now. I’m very much an emotional eater too, so a new child coming in to our lives doesn’t make that hurdle any easier. It takes a lot of discipline to hold yourself accountable. I have so much respect for people who can do it!

Any how, 2011 is looking to be one of the best years of my life! I can’t wait! Happy New Year Everyone!

Not For the Weak of Heart!

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I’ve heard it joked about that adoption is the easy way out… HA! That is sooo very wrong! What a roller coaster!

I’ll start with updating you on our Citizenship issue. We got word from our MP office on Tuesday that our application was found, had not been lost, and been approved! We should receive the confirmation in the mail soon! Fabulous! This feels slightly bittersweet. I’m so relieved that everything worked out but we shouldn’t have been put through that worry in the first place. An 8 week wait jumping to a 27 week wait without notice is absurd, then to be told our file doesn’t exist was ridiculous! I shouldn’t have been told that to begin with. I should have just received the approval on time. The Citizenship office gave the MP the excuse of poor workers with a high turn over rate at the call center where I got my information. This is completely unacceptable! If they have people working for them, they need to train them properly and put in some sort of process to talk with a superior or complaint center!

The same day we got the phone call about our good citizenship news, we also got a picture of Sofie! We were so excited! I had to hold my emotions back a little bit because there were some in-discrepancies with the birth date and age of the child in the picture.

Originally, when we first got the two mini-referrals of two little girls in November, we were told we could review both files without pictures and choose from there. The next day we were told we had to choose one girl to adopt from the small amount of info provided on the mini-referrals. I was happy to not have to read both files. Making that kind of choice is just so difficult! From the minimal info we had, we chose to go ahead with the girl that we had more info on and trust that we would get the girl we were meant to get. On Tuesday we got her picture… but it wasn’t for the girl we had originally requested. This didn’t deter us at all… It doesn’t matter which  little girl is ours, we just want to make sure that there are no issues with the paper work. We want to ensure the paper work matches the child we bring home.

After a few phone calls and emails between our agency and the Bulgarian agency, we found out what’s going on. Basically the Bulgarian MOJ and agency think we are crazy for doing a blind adoption for a child with Down syndrome. They also found out we are planning to skip the first trip to meet our daughter, which is extra crazy to them! The first trip is only put in place for the parents protection. The MOJ wants the parents to feel as confident as possible that they know what child they are adopting, in hopes to avoid adoption disruptions. We feel very confident that we are in for some really amazing and difficult times with our new daughter and we know this is what we should be doing. Adoption disruption is not an option, so the first trip seems like an emotional (because we’d have to leave her in the orphanage), expensive, and unnecessary trip that we can avoid.

Because they don’t understand how we can blindly want this child, they want us to thoroughly review all the information they can get us on both girls and choose from that. They are sending us both files, all the pictures they can get, past and present, and updated videos. They want us to read and watch everything before with actually commit. I’m really excited to get so much information on my daughter before I meet her but how do we take one child over the other?! We wouldn’t get to pick if she was our birth child! This is crazy. Plus, it pushes our time line back a little bit. We won’t have all the information on both girls until mid January. Which means we can’t commit until the end of January, which means we can’t start all the paperwork until after that. I was hoping to have started it all by now. I’m still hoping to bring her home in the spring but it will probably be the end of spring now, instead of the beginning.

The girl who we have the pictures and video of right now is already working her way in to my heart. I don’t know exactly how this is going to play out but right now we are thinking that she is our Sofie. Before we found out all about this, we announced her in our Christmas cards as our daughter. She very likely is our daughter… this is just very confusing. I’m trusting that God knows how this is supposed to work out and will get Sofie to us soon, even with all this little bumps in the road. 

Privatizing Until She is Ours

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Now that we have Sofie’s picture we’ve been warned not to share any info on her as to not cause any “scandals”. International adoption is so political. We don’t want to create any un-needed problems with anything I write in here. I think we are going to privatize our blog just until she is legally ours. You’ll need an invitation from me to continue reading this for the next few months… but I’ll make it public as soon as she is legally ours!