Finally… an Update!

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In case you don’t check our Adoption page regularly or missed it on Facebook, we finally got an update on the Adoption!

It turns out that the MOJ gave her approval for us to proceed with adopting Sofie on June 7th. All the papers should be at the court house by June 14th at the latest and our agency is expecting our court date to be some where between June 20-26. THAT IS TWO WEEKS PEOPLE! I really hope that my next blog post is announcing our court date.

I told my Grandma about this update today and she told me that yesterday morning she woke up from a dream where she could almost see Sofie. She said she felt sure that Sofie was coming soon and then today I showed up with the update! I know I’m not one who fully buys in to all the mystic spirituality stuff, mostly because there are so many crazies out there, but surprisingly, I do fully believe in dreams sometimes being communication from God… and I believe in anything spiritual my Grandma says. She has a direct line to God in an amazing-chills-miracles-happen-around-her kind of way. Hopefully, Oma’s dream means that Sofie will be home even sooner than we are thinking 🙂

Opa had a really bad day today. He is aging, his health is deteriorating and he is ready to go to Heaven. He was quite out of it and sleepy for our visit today, but likes seeing the energy Livi has… as long as she isn’t screeching 🙂 Even on his worse days he always asks about Sofie. He may not always remember her name, or the details of our adoption, but it is so special to me that he always asks about Sofie specifically. I sometimes feel like maybe he is holding on just to meet her. Maybe that is a little egocentric but he has been a very big part of my life and I’ve heard lots of stories like that. I think we might be stopping in to Oma and Opa’s house on the way home from the airport 🙂

So, what’s next you ask? Court will legally make us parents to Sofie! Assuming the judge grants the adoption, it will take about a week to prepare the Adoption Order (paper work). Once our Bulgarian agency has the Adoption order they can apply for Sofie’s new birth certificate with her new name on it and us as parents. It should take about a week to ten days. With the birth certificate, they will then apply for her passport…About another week to ten days. With her birth certificate they can also finish applying for her Canadian citizenship. Citizenship is the unpredictable beast. For our friends who adopted from Bulgaria before us, Citizenship took just over a month. They got the okay to pick their son up exactly 2 months after court. If we experience the same time line as them (and it has been pretty close so far), we will be able to pick Sofie up at the end of August.

The end of August is too late in my books… so please send up all your prayers, wishes and hopes that we get the okay to go get her sooner than that!

Feelings

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I love my daughter more than I can put in to words. Livi is unbelievably wonderful. I am so happy being her mom and I am so ready to be a mom again. I feel like I have so much love to give to my second daughter but I can’t let it all out yet. I have to reign it in because I don’t have her and I fear something is going to keep her from me.

The weekends are the worst because I know that there is no chance of hearing anything from the agency about our court date. I ache to get word. I’m angry with the process. Why does it have to take so long? Sofie is just sitting there, hungry and unaware of what love feels like.

I’m tired of people asking about the adoption or telling me stories of people they know who have either had a wonderful successful adoption or had a terrible wait. I get just as annoyed if people don’t ask about Sofie or talk about what we are going through. I understand it is my issues and no one can win on this point with me. Even though it all bugs me, it is always better to ask me about it and acknowledge my second child. Silence and avoidance is unbearable to me.

We obviously still haven’t heard anything. I’m trying to hold off until Wednesday before emailing the agency again. 3 weeks ago they told us we should hear any day when our court date is and that court should be in June. Well, that was three weeks ago and mid June is a week and a half away. I don’t know how to feel any more. I wish my will and love could just bring Sofie home but I am so guarded and afraid of over attaching myself in case something goes wrong in court.

Babymoon

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I’m not sure if this actually counts as a babymoon since it was only one night, but it was really great to get away last night. One of the perks of Jon’s job is that he gets special rates at certain hotels… The Hyatt Regency being one of them 🙂 We got a $300 room for 50% off! It was so nice and the most comfortable hotel bed I have ever slept on. We have never really done much for the two of us in terms of getting away, besides camping, so it felt like such luxury.

We started our date off with test driving a car we were seriously considering buying. Our Echo has served us well for almost 10 years but with almost 300,000km it was time to move on. We thought we might need a little more room in the family car with Sofie coming home. We weren’t planning on buying a car that day but made an offer and we accepted their counter offer. At 0% down, 0% interest we are now the proud owners of a Hyundai Elantra! What a fun way to start off our date! We got to drive it off the lot and took it downtown for our date 🙂
*On a bit of a side note… the car decision has being so difficult because we don’t know how long we’ll be able to manage with one car and not sure if we can afford to be a two car family. With Jon’s office now being in Chilliwack we think it will be easier to stay with one car a lot longer than we were originally thinking. When we do need the second car we will probably be going with a used minivan 🙂 As a bonus with getting a new car our insurance payments are $50 less than with the Echo!*
Back to our date… We checked in to the Hyatt and went for some window shopping down Robson. I used to LOVE going to Robson and shopping in every store. I think I have just grown up a bit and don’t get caught up with all the name brands like I used too. We did share a tiger butter caramel apple which is one of my favorite things and I did enjoy going to the huge Chapter’s kids book section. I bought Livi a book! A mom’s life… enjoying shopping for the kids more than herself! I don’t mind 🙂 
We drove down to The Fish House in Stanley Park for a relaxing, late, delicious dinner and even more delicious creme brule dessert before heading back to the hotel for the night. We got to sleep late but got to sleep in without a 2 year old to wake us up! After check out, and Starbucks, we had crepes for breakfast at the Market on Granville Island. There was a Children’s Festival going on at Granville, so I felt a little guilty with out Livi. It was fun to look at all the toys and art though! 
We got home just in time to put Livi down for her nap and get a little more sleep in our selves. It was such a nice, relaxing date night and felt really good for our marriage. We’ve been doing really well but it is always nice to take some time to devote to each other for good conversation and loving 🙂 We are celebrating our 7th wedding anniversary this summer and I don’t feel any itch…yet  😉
Thank-you so much for arranging all this, Jon and for everything you do for us! I love you more than you know.