Month: August 2011

The First Few Days

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I think we are all settling in to our new lives as well as we could possibly hope for. We are all figuring out our new routines and what Sofie and Livi need from Jon and I. I am loving waking up to my girls every morning. They both wander out of their room and give huge smiles at our bedside each morning.

Jet lag hasn’t been too much of an issue. We’ve felt a little sick but sleeping is going great! It was much easier coming home with jet lag was much easier than going to Bulgaria. In Bulgaria we kept waking up at 2am hungry! We’ve been sleeping through the night fine! The girls have been too!

Both girls are on the same schedule already which I’m pretty amazed at. They are even sleeping in the same room relatively fine too! They go to sleep at night around 8pm and have been asleep before 9 each night. Jon or I generally “sleep” in the big chair with them for the first 30 minutes until they are both settled. Nap times have been a little more difficult but we only had to move Livi to our bed once. They have both eventually napped each day. I’m convinced that so far this is MUCH easier than having had a birth child.

 Having a fun first bath together!

Jon and I are really enjoying both of our girls! Livi is a doting, patient, understanding sister. She wants to hold Sofie’s hand and hug her all the time but is really good a backing off when Sofie has had enough. She always wants to know where Sofie is and be in the same room as her. Sofie is developmentally at a 9-12 month old baby with a 3 year olds strength and agility. She hits and pulls hair. We are working hard at teaching her that is not appropriate. I have been amazed by how Livi is handling that. If Sofie is hitting, Livi backs off immediately. When Sofie grabs her hair, Livi just goes still and quietly waits for Jon or I to deal with Sofie. She hasn’t cried, or even been mad at Sofie. We explain daily that because Sofie can’t talk she shows her fear and frustration by hitting, but we need to teach her other ways. Livi seems to be really understanding. She is empathizing too and said yesterday that if she were Sofie she’d be really scared moving to a new home and country too. I’m so proud of my big girl. Livi is definitely exhibiting some frustration and inappropriate behaviours, but I’m not sure if this is more because of Sofie or more because she had so many different rules with different caregivers for two weeks. I’m sure it is a combination.

  Meeting Opa 🙂
 Picture time!

Posing with Oma! 
It is so much harder to get a good picture with two kids!

Sofie seems to be adjusting really well too. She gives us lots of smiles. She is eating SO much better too. She still prefers baby pablum cereal but we are pushing other food and this morning discovered she loves mushed up banana and Cheerios! We even got a few sips of chocolate milk in her! She has her fussy times in the day but is pretty content most of the time. She has done great with Parker. We were worried, but we introduced them by showing her that we could hold and pet him. She was totally fine and has even pet him since by herself! She is doing okay in her big girl bed. We have a rail up but she has still managed to fall out of bed two out of the four nights we’ve been home. I think we are going to keep trying her in the bed though… unless she starts falling out more nights than she stays in… or breaks something 🙂

 Sofie’s first hair cut with us. 
Her bangs were driving me nuts so this was a priority 🙂

Sofie and Livi are slowly starting to play together and Sofie is learning a lot from her sister! The first morning the girls were waiting in the living room for Jon and I to get breakfast ready. I walked in and found both girls standing on the coffee table and Livi trying to teach Sofie how to jump on to the couch! I think we are in for some pretty awesome adventures! In the two weeks we’ve had Sofie and the 4 days we’ve been home Sofie has developed so much. She cries so much less when it comes too food. She’s drank a little today! She understands the signs for ‘more’, ‘all done’ and ‘food’. She looks plumper. I’m not sure how much weight she has actually gained but her tummy is rounder and I think she has more water in her body or something because I swear there is more meat on her. The bags under her eyes when we first met her are mostly gone. She has been putting more things in her mouth and exploring her oral development! She is even starting to play with toys! She was stacking rings yesterday and playing with Livi’s teacup… not throwing them!

I finally ironed out the confusion about seeing a pediatrician and am taking Sofie to see a highly recommended pediatrician tomorrow morning. We have an appointment with the Child Develpment Center on Tuesday. Friends are starting to stop by for visits and I’m thankful for the company and support. Sofie is on the right track and I get to join her on the journey. She has already taught us so much and added so much to our lives. I’m so thankful for her! I feel so content right now. 

Coming Home – Aug 14

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Sunday morning, Sofie woke up just before 8… that’s 10pm on Saturday for BC’ers. Keep this in mind….

We left for the airport around 11:30am  and took off on our first flight from Sofia to London at 2:15pm Bulgarian time. Sofie fell asleep pretty quickly after take-off. The first 4 hour flight was quite uneventful and stress free… despite over 10 kids on the small plane. Sofie slept for the first hour and a half though! 
 Ready to go!

Getting in to and out of London was a little more stressful. We weren’t sure where to go for the connecting flight and we weren’t counting on having to go through security again. London was a little more stringent on their security standards then Sofia. Since we had baby food with us they searched both our bags, took everything out, made me taste 50% of the sealed jars and had us repack it all. They were nice about it but it was still really annoying. Sofie was getting frustrated and acting out a little plus we only made our connecting flight with just five minutes to spare. Jon was freaking out a little.
The 9.5 hour flight from London to Vancouver was, at times, very low. Sofie slept five minutes here and there and between hours 4-6 she just cried on and off… Mommy did too. I felt terrible for her. She was so uncomfortable and miserable. There was nothing we could do to help her. Thankfully, she cries pretty quietly so she didn’t disturb to many other passengers. For only sleeping for a total of two hours in the 23 hours of being awake Sofie did incredible. I don’t know how it was physically possible for a toddler to be awake that long and be so mellow, but she is making it a habit of surprising us every day!
 So Tired.

Finally landing around 6:45pm was such a release of emotions. Sofie was officially a Canadian citizen upon landing on Canadian soil and we were so close to seeing Livi! We had one or two more passport checks to get through and luggage to claim then we were free. Everything seemed to move pretty quickly and we raced to get out of there! 

 Everyone waiting! Jeremy and Andrew’s girlfriend are behind people.
Sessa was taking the picture.

Racing to Livi!
 
I started crying even before we reached the turn to the meeting area. I was holding Sofie and Jon was pushing the cart. Everyone was at the front of the waiting area. I remember hearing Liz, I think, say “there they are!” I think I started running at this point. Livi was screaming “There’s Mommy and Daddy!” She had a big sign too but I could only see her clearly. She was on the verge of tears too but I think happy tears confused her 🙂 I grabbed her up in my one arm with Sofie in my other. She kept looking at my “wet” face and back at Sofie. Jon was a few short steps behind me and scooped Livi up from me. It was one of the happiest moments of my life. All four of us were together.

 Together!
 Livi was in awe.

Livi was fascinated with her “sister Sofie”. It was so precious. She wasn’t sure if she could touch her or not… I think she just wanted to feel if she was real and give her hugs and kisses. Sofie was a little overwhelmed but took it in stride as usual! We sat in the arrival for a few minutes while everyone took a ton of pictures and got their chance to say hi. The car ride home was long but I think I fell asleep so it passed by quickly. Sofie fell asleep, finally around 9pm in the car too. That’s right, she slept for two hours in twenty three!

 
Meeting Auntie Liz!
 
 Meeting Auntie Sessa!

Meeting Marmee!
Meeting Gramma!

When we got home, we just transferred Sofie to her bed and collapsed ourselves. For the first night we had decided that we would try Sofie on her ‘big girl’ bed, Livi could choose who she wanted to sleep with in our bad and the other parent would sleep in Livi’s bed by Sofie. This was a great arrangement and the timing of getting home was perfect! We all slept until 8 in the morning! Hooray! Livi woke up once to go pee and then was scared of Sofie’s snoring 🙂 Although she had originally chosen to sleep with Daddy, when she got scared she wanted Mommy 🙂 I was fine with that because it meant I could sleep in my own bed! Jon was a little miffed that I stole his spot but since it was 3 in the morning I figured we each got about half a night in the good bed!

Waking up, at home with both my girls was priceless. We pulled them both in bed for some cuddles. Livi was adoring and Sofie was eating it up! This moment was what we had been waiting for. It was perfect. I love my girls.

 Morning cuddles!
 Sister Love!

Goodbye Bulgaria!

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We leave today! Thank God! All three of us get to go home together! I thought I would put together a Likes and Dislikes list to commemorate our goodbye….

Things I Like about my time in Bulgaria:

  1. The history!
  2. The random Roman artifacts laying around the city.
  3. The buildings and architecture!
  4. The driving… it is so fast. I believe I was born to drive in Europe, Canada can’t handle me.
  5. The luxury for cheap!
  6. Cheap Taxis.
  7. Cheap alcohol. 
  8. The hospitality of people.
  9. The shoes! 
  10. The fashions, particularly jumpers.
  11. The weather has been awesome! 
  12. Most people here speak a little bit of English! It makes it a lot easier on us English-only speakers!

Things I Dislike about my time in Bulgaria:

  1. The standard of waiting tables. Horrible. They don’t check on you. They don’t bring your bill. They take forever. Food comes out at different times!
  2. The uneven and un-kept sidewalks.
  3. Graffiti everywhere. 
  4. How the poor are soooo poor. That sounds weird. But it is true. The homeless in Vancouver are poor but there are things in place to help them and make sure they get food and sometimes shelter. The poor here don’t have any safe guards. They wanted our left over food. A Vancouver homeless person would never do that. This is a big place that Bulgaria could step up. 
  5. The food. Some of it tastes quite delicious but it is so different. I have not had a normal bowel movement since I’ve been here… both extremes.
  6. The orphanage system. My views on this are obviously apparent already. 
  7. How EVERYONE chain smokes here. Seriously, how are they all not dying of cancer?
  8. The lack of recycling and water conservation. One of their main exports is mineral water and everyone drinks it here so there is SO much glass and plastic bottles wasted!
  9. How this is a very child-unfriendly country. Not much for little kids to do, no kids menus or crayons in restaurants, and I only saw a handful of local kids at all! 
Being here with Sofie really was the right choice. Her having our undivided attention has been pretty invaluable. I think it will really go a long way on this attachment journey. She has come so far this week with us too! She already understands the signs for ‘more’, ‘all done’ and ‘food’. She cries WAY less while eating, mainly because we aren’t force feeding her and she is now able go communicate when she wants more or she is all done! She will still go to random people but she definitely recognizes Jon and I and will choose who she wants to hold her and when. She loves tickles and getting a reaction from us when she rolls herself off the bed and we run to catch her. She LOVES baths… to much. I swear she said “mama” in the bath today too! Not sure she completely understands what it means though. She loves music, dancing and interacting with people. I am so beyond excited to get home to where I am comfortable and where I can be with BOTH of my girls but I have really appreciated what I have learned and experienced while in Bulgaria. I am so thankful to this country for giving us such a precious, wonderful child!

We are off now! Pray for an uneventful trip, with no tantrums from Mommy, Daddy or Sofie and pray that Sofie eats well and we have enough cereal for her to last the trip… it will be cutting it close!

PS – My sister is going through a hard time today. The girl she works for got really sick all of the sudden, was put on life support and has chosen to be taken off today. She’s had many medical issues throughout her life and was tired. It doesn’t look like she will make it. She is very young and very loved by many. Pray for peace for everyone. It will be a day of extreme’s for Sessa… meeting her niece tonight, after possibly losing one of her dear friends the same day.