The girls school plan before we had Sofie home was to keep Sofie back a year. Livi would go in to preschool at age 4 and Sofie would go to preschool at age 5. We had wanted to do this for a few reasons. We wanted the extra time for Sofie to feel safe and attach with us. Since Livi is developmentally older and the first child, we wanted to keep the natural progression of her role and have her go to school first. We also did not want Livi to feel the extra responsibility for her sister that would come with them being in the same grade. She is already going to feel the responsibility with Sofie in the same school. Kids can be mean.
It has been suggested by numerous professionals to get Sofie in to preschool earlier than later. So, we began thinking of putting both Livi and Sofie in next September but having Sofie repeat 4 year old preschool twice. I talked with CDC about this today and discovered that their funding for an aid in preschool stops when the child is 5. If we want Sofie to continue with an aid she’ll have to go in to kindergarten at age 5.
So, Jon and I have a few options of what to do and I think we need some advice…
- Keep Sofie out of preschool completely and put her in kindergarten at age 6. Livi would go ahead with preschool and Kindergarten as planned.
- Pro’s – Still maintain Livi and Sofie’s separation from each other.
- Con’s – Sofie would not get any CDC aid support.
- Put both girls in preschool together at 4 and both in kindergarten at 5 but separate classes.
- Pro’s – Easiest choice as far as getting Sofie aids.
- Con’s – Livi’s possible feelings of responsibility and resentment for having to watch out for her sister who is in the same grade.
- Put both girls in preschool, together, and kindergarten together, separate classes, but have Sofie repeat kindergarten.
- Pro’s – Easy way to ensure Sofie gets the aids, and eventually separates the girls.
- Con’s – Still may have Livi develop some jealousy and resentment feelings in the early years and schools are apparently very reluctant to hold kids back these days.
- We could also maybe start Livi in preschool in January then proceed with both girls in 4 year old preschool, same class, and kindergarten, separate classes.
- Pro’s – Gets Livi in school first to have the big girl feelings
- Con’s – Still has the girls together in future years and not sure how it would work with her ballet class.
- One last option is that we put the girls in separate preschools and/or schools. This option seems a little excessive and unpractical though.